What the difference between love and infatuation?

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Question by ?: What the difference between love and infatuation?
My bf says he loves me and then when he fills out surveys and posts them he’ll say he doesn’t know if he’s ever been in love? I don’t need him to love me but why do guys say it if they don’t know if they feel that way.
I haven’t said it he is the one saying it. I have already told him I don’t want him to say it if he doesn’t mean it but he still does. It confuses me!

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Answer by Mataz
maybe he’s just trying to convince you or himself that he does. maybe he thinks he does at times and somethimes he thinks he might not.

you need to talk to him about it. not yahoo.

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Love lasts infatuation is fleeting

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love is like you just LOVE the person, looks, personality, flaws, everything.
infatuation is when you like someone for their looks
&guys, well ya know they don’t like to express their feelings through words &stuff.

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how old is he? younger guys (or ones having there first crush) tend to fluctuate with their emotions… he may think he is in love cos he has never felt this way before, but i think you are right to doubt it as he doesnt seem able to make the commitment of love (as in letting anyone else know he feels this way)
he probably does think he is in love, and he may be but it could well just be an infactuation. usually love happens when both partners feel the same way about each other, infactuations are more like one person being in awe of the other.
try telling him that it bothers you when he says it then doesnt follow it up (ie with the surveys) and see what he says then hun x

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Please read the Book. I hate telling people to do this because when I do nobody ever gives me the best answer, even though it is the best answer.
THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES
I’m sure it would be a rewarding experience if you read it . You will understand so much more afterward.
Oh and why? because everybody is ignorant of what the facts are, so they stumble through life making up stuff and spreading it out like they know. This book is a list of facts.

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some people think that they really do love a person while others say it because they think the other person wants to hear it wheather are not you told him not to if he dosent mean it maby he really truely does love you but let him know how you feel if he does love you he shouldnt have to hide it

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sometimes saying “i love you” is the only way to explain what spectacular feelings he has for you…but then when it comes to someone asking “have you ever been in love” he doesnt wanna say yes completely cause he doesnt know EXACTLY what love is…no one knows the definition of love!

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Love is for elders. My husband was sick with the flu and when you stay up all night and hold him in your arms. that is love. He did the same for me. We have both. when your man buys you kotex in the middle of the night, that is love. Simple things like that shows real love.

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He probably does love you, but is afraid of commitment or has doubts in his mind, especially young guys. You should talk to him about it if it bothers you, and just ask him how he feels about you. A lot of men who love their women freak out sometimes when it comes to commitment, because it’s like the ending of their chance of still being single and not being able to be satisfied will all the qualities in one woman, but in several.

It matters to you a lot, because you already love him, and it hurts you that he doesn’t feel the same way.

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Infactuation (or puppylove) is more akin to “in love with love” or being “a fool for love”.
This usually afflicts teenagers, in the sense that they are compellingly attracted to the opposite sexes without an actual understanding of what love is about. True love needs the basic ingredient of knowing and understanding the other party (faults, warts and all).

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Ok, first of all, don’t think of this in terms of the tendencies of men versus women, because that’s just going to invite unwanted stereotypes and tension.

Second of all, I really wouldn’t invest very much attention and emotional stock in the answers on a simple internet survey. If his answer really bothers you that much, then instead of speculating and getting paranoid, instead of asking people online who really don’t know what’s happening in your relationship and can’t give you a perfect answer, ask him directly what he means by that answer on those surveys.

Don’t think of this in terms of men and women. Think of it in terms of you and him. If it confuses you, then ask the one person who can actually give you clarity: him.

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