The Love Dare

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The Love Dare

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Too many marriages end when someone says “I’ve fallen out of love with you” or “I don’t love you anymore.” The Love Dare discusses how these statements reveal a lack of understanding about the fundamental nature of true love. As featured in the popular new Fireproof, from the team that brought us the #1 best selling DVD Facing the Giants, The Love Dare is a 40-day guided devotional experience that will lead your heart back to truly loving your spouse while learning more about the design, nature, and source of true love. Each reading includes Scripture, a statement of principle, the day’s “dare,” and a journaling area and check box to chart progress. Dare to take The Love Dare, and see your marriage change forever.

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Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

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A Marriage Book with a Difference! A Revolutionary Message “I’ve been married 35 years and have not heard this taught.” “This is the key that I have been missing.” “A lightbulb moment.” “You connected all the dots for me.” “As a counselor, I have never been so excited about any material.” “You’re on to something huge here.” A Simple Message A wife has one driving need — to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need — to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy. “Love and Respect” reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily and biblically. A Message That Works Based on over three decades of counseling, as well as scientific and biblical research, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs and his wife, Sarah, have already taken the “Love and Respect” message across America and are changing the way couples talk to,

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Review by Theresa for The Love Dare
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As most people might already know, this book is based upon the Christian “Fireproof”, which is about a man who saves his marriage by completing a character-testing, 40-day list of “dares” suggested to him by his father. Like the , the book of course is Christian based as well.

I loved the and the book is more of the same. However I looked at both of them from the perspective of a person happily married for over 15 years. I can tell you that while I don’t practice all the dares in the book, my spouse and I are good about doing many of them- and of course there’s always room for improvement. From my personal experience, I feel like concentrating on the kinds of ideas presented in the book have been absolutely key to making our marriage last.

Now the book itself also consists of a 40-day list of dares. For each day, there’s about a page and a half or so of advice, followed by a specific dare and some space for you to write down your personal reflections. Dares range from things such as practicing patience to writing out a renewal of your vows. The guys will probably particularly like Day 32!

As you can tell, I highly recommend going to see the and reading the book. In a society that places a high value on looks and money, while sporting a 50% divorce rate, its nice to see more and books coming out that get people more focused on the right values in life. Even if you don’t do anything more than just glance through the book, you’re going to be given something to think about. Other self-help books I enjoyed include “Finding Happiness in a Frustrating World” .

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Review by R. Lesniak for The Love Dare
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After 15 years of marriage and three children, this simple little book helped me to remember that marriage is not just about meeting the right person, it’s also about being the right person. A small time commitment over 40 days breathed now life back into our marriage. I highly recommend it to all married couples.

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Review by James John Hollandsworth, M.D. for The Love Dare
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Half of all marriages end in divorce. That means most marriage relationships are either severely dysfunctional or headed that way. What is the answer?

The Love Dare’s answer is that we don’t really understand how to live out the love that marriage requires. Inspired by the Fireproof, this book is a forty day devotional that covers various aspects of the true sacrificial love which is missing from many marriages.

There is a lot to like about this book. It clearly explains the nature of mature love & practically challenges you to live it out. It emphasizes how YOU have to be the one to take responsibility and change, regardless of how your partner does or does not respond, and it shows how the strength for that kind of love is powered by a relationship with God through Jesus Christ. This book has had a powerful impact on thousands of people, and I am very thankful for the truth it teaches.

However, the book does have some shortcomings. First, the book is unnaturally constrained to fit the plot of the . The ’s plot confronted the main character with his need for a personal relationship with God mid-way through, and so the book follows suit. Halfway through the forty days, we suddenly shift to a presentation of how living out sacrificial love should make one realize his absolute need for Christianity. For Christians reading a book on marriage, the discussion of how our relationship with Christ should structure our marital relationship should be foundational, should be page 1. On the other hand, a non-Christian reading the book frankly is unlikely to be impressed by this sudden foray into an altar call in the middle of the book.

Second, the book spends little time on the differing roles of the husband and wife in a marriage. From a Biblical standpoint, there are real & crucial differences in how a man loves & responds to his wife vs. how a woman loves & responds to her husband. The Love Dare doesn’t address these differing roles which are very important to the success of any Christian marriage.

Third, I felt there was this unwritten “if you do these steps your marriage will be transformed” aura to the book. While all marriages can benefit from going through this devotional, I think that many seriously troubled marriages will not have the ’s storybook happy ending at the end of forty days. Consequently, I fear people will either conclude they failed in some way or that God failed in some way. Neither would be true. Many marriages need more than just a good devotional; they need intensive personal intervention by a person of wisdom such as a counselor or pastor plus two partners who are both committed and humble. In my experience true humility is seldom found in both halves of a troubled relationship.

The Love Dare is forty days of wisdom and challenge that will benefit any marriage; just don’t consider it to be the complete cure-all for every troubled relationship in the world.

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Review by mk for The Love Dare
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I became a Believer 5 years ago. Married for 6 years to a beautiful, amazing woman and blessed with 2 adorable children from this union, why do this ‘challenge’? Why read this book?

I love my wife, and our marriage thrives. Sometimes I think if men would simply, truly love their wives, divorce would go out the window. In general, and forgive me for generalities, woman thrive at relationships and social activities if we give them a reason.

My dilemma: I became a Christian and my wife didn’t. Still, our relationship works even with an essentially ‘New Ager’ married to a ‘Jesus Freak’. I pray and witness to my family openly and try to do it with love and without a better than you, condemning, preachy attitude. But I’m flawed, and sometimes she’ll roll her eyes or sigh, and either I or her get a bit defensive or worse, offensive. Whew!

The Kendricks’ 40 day challenge offers daily encouragement essentially for Believers; although, anyone could benefit from a program that stresses kindness, attentiveness and re-discovery, but unless non-Christians are open and friendly towards the Faith, most will probably be put off by the Christian theme.

If you like a daily to-do format and the feeling of having a 40 day period of cleansing, starting over, renewal, I strongly recommend this for you. Most of the challenges are simply commonsense, but it’s nice to hear it in short, digestable pieces and wonder what tomorrow’s challenge will bring. And of course, it goes well with the .

I gave it 5 stars, not because it’s a great, voluminous revelation, not that now I’m highly enlighted as my wife might say, and not just because I’m a Jesus freak, but because it calmed me down and help release my control; it urged me to look deeper, to want to give more freely without conditions, to try to love without too many expectations and to appreciate her for her. And as a man and a Christian, may I say: everything in the world is not about me!

“Yes, yes, I know all this.” But, it sure helps to repeat it and be reminded of what’s really important.

Finally, did it help my marriage? Yes! She didn’t know what I was up to. And not to brag, because we struggle with life problems like anyone, and she’s still a non-Believer(that’s in God’s hands) but our closeness and intimacy jumped to a fresh, new level. There’s fireworks in more ways than I can say. Whatever you do, there’s always hope, start anew.

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Review by Klove for The Love Dare
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The love dare is a short, very readable guide to

helping couples reconnect thru daily love ideas.

It helps you build your love on a Christian and totally

open agape love. It reminds you to do the little things that make

loving and living together more rewarding even in the

tough times.

Lee

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Review by Tigersroar84 for Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs
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This book includes a DVD that is a 30 minute book promotion. It is NOT the Love & Respect Conference. If you want the official Love & Respect Conference on DVD you have to order it from http://www.loveandrespect.com

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Review by A. Cooper for Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs
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I thought the principal behind the book was something that will help virtually every married couple. My husband and I laughed at sections b/c we found some of the anecdotes so spot on to our daily lives. Eggerichs clearly explained to us why we keep going through the “Crazy Cycle.” The Respect/Love needs in men/women is potentially a marriage saver or breaker.

I have 2 constructive criticisms of the book. I still recommend this book, however I do give these caveats:

1. This book talks as if men know how to love their wives. There may be a million books out there on how to do it, but we didn’t have those. My husband and I were reading this one. And I grew weary of hearing how women needed to learn to respect their husbands. Frankly, I grasped the principal within the first few pages. After a few chapters, I felt like rolling my eyes a little. Because he paid so little attention to talking about how men should love their wives, it felt like that part was very trivialized. I understand that was not the point, however, the title was “Love & Respect”, not just “Respect.”

2. I would have liked more tangible examples of exactly what it means to “Respect” my husband. I want to do it. And he made it clear that “nagging, complaining, and whining” at him were disrespectful. But I need more examples. What are the active things I can do? Is it disrespectful to remind my husband to take the garbage out the night before? If it is, then how do I make sure the task gets done w/out reminding him? It isn’t an issue of control, but I have to get the kids out the door in the morning and I need help and I need him to do this one thing. Make sense? I need to know how to have those discussions w/out disrespecing him.

I hestitate to use this as a small group book b/c it is so one-sided. And it tends to repeat itself. Again, I got the principal pretty quickly. And as good as it is, after a while, enough is enough. Another reviewer said it felt a bit like a brochure for the conference. That is exactly how I felt.

A good book? Yes. A helpful principle? Absolutely. A must-read? Maybe. But definitely helpful to a Christian marriage and therefore, I do and would recommend it.

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Review by Brian K. William for Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs
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The good:

1) I like the connection between love and respect. Every time he says husbands need respect and wives need love, you have to translate that mentally into *both* husbands *and* wives need love *and* respect, but the basic premise is a good one — the Christian understanding of love indicates an attitude of honoring, respecting, and blessing the other person.

2) The crazy cycle and reward cycle. This is one of the most important things most couples could learn. Our behaviors are self-reinforcing and good things to lead to more good things in a cycle. Likewise, bad things often lead to more bad things. The good news is that we serve a God of redemption and just as the gospel message teaches us that Christ breaks us out of a cycle of sin, God can redeem broken marriages and break them out of destructive cycles.

3) For *some* couples, a disrespectful attitude toward the husband or an unloving attitude toward the wife *is* the problem. For those relationships, I imagine they would benefit greatly from this book.

The not-so-good:

1) As mentioned by several reviewers already, the book is incredibly sexist. I started making a `W’ in the margins when Dr. Eggerichs blamed the wife for the problem and a `H’ when he blamed the husband. Skimming back through, it’s about 90% W’s. Just about any time he says something negative about the husband, you are almost guaranteed to get a follow-up sentence about how his wife’s pettiness or nagging or belittling comments or criticizing or bitterness or whatever was really the root cause of the husband’s behavior. At times, it was to the point I thought he was emasculating men by making us out to be powerless — we can’t take responsibility for our own behavior because every issue is probably our wife’s fault anyway.

2) It’s kindof a continuation of #1, but I honestly can’t believe he found a man and a *woman* to blame the husband’s marital infidelity on the wife. Finding a man who wants to justify his immorality by blaming his wife shouldn’t be too hard, but Dr. Eggerichs found a woman who blamed *herself* for her husband’s philandering. The idea that a man has so little control over his own actions that he is to be expected to wander if his wife doesn’t `put out’ often enough is just galling.

3) The narrowness of the focus. As I mentioned above, a disrespected husband or unloved wife is a problem for some couples. But there’s lots of reasons marriages struggle, and disrespect is only one of the possibilities. Dr. Eggerichs doesn’t acknowledge that at all.

4) He spends quite a bit of energy being defensive about it, so Dr. Eggerichs clearly realizes that the idea of unconditional respect has some problems. I honestly don’t see the appeal of unconditional respect. If I want respect from my wife (which I most certainly do!), I will act in a way that *deserves* respect. Why would I demand her unconditional respect regardless of my actions unless I couldn’t be bothered to earn it?

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Review by Marilyn Johnson for Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs
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A marvelous book that far surpasses earlier Christian (e.g., His Needs, Her Needs) and secular (e.g., Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus) treatments of the topic. While other books have identified a variety of gender-based psychological and biological differences, Dr. Eggerich provides a framework (Love/Respect) that is beautiful for both its simplicity and its ability to explain these gender differences as part of God’s plan for men, women, and marriage.

Some reviewers will undoubtedly write-off the book as of “sexist stereotypes.” In contrast, I found the book to reveal profound truths that are just as relevant to someone like me – a professor at a major university who would describe her marriage as “egalitarian” – as to women who have chosen more traditional roles.

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Review by Chris Burge Ministries for Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs
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Love and Respect is one of the finest books I have read on the topic of male female communication. As this book gains more and more exposure it will go down as a must own in Christian marriage counseling. Not only did I order the book, but I also ordered the 9 cd set on the same topic and the workbooks “Motivating Your Man God’s Way. I am a single living in New York and this book contains tremendous material for singles that will prove to be invaluable once they get married. I have taught much of the content in our bible studies. The purchasing of this book may be the single greatest investment you can man make to learn about the opposite , and have a God centered marriage.

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