How could two incompatible people who love each other get along?

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Question by .: How could two incompatible people who love each other get along?
If two people totally love each other but are incompatible, how do they get along? This doesnt have to necessarily be me, so dont answer in “you”s but rather “they”s.

In other terms, their are two people who dont get along because of incompatibly issues, but they love each other not to give up on one another. Its a possible combination. So, how does a couple who is going through this deal with it and save the relationship?

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Answer by yofuture2003
I dont know Im married to one and we made it three years and now are on the verge of Divorce so if you find the answer please let me know

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The answer is in the word “compatibility.”

There are many levels of compatibility depending on the people involved.

For example, two people could be compatible in the way they care about people in general. Some people care more than others, and it’s very hard to find someone who would care about another person so much that they would be willing to be completely open and take risks. So when someone like this finds another person that is the same way, they are compatible in a very deep level. At the same time, they might disagree about more superficial things, such as whether they should live in a house or an apartment, or about the government, or about whether they should work on weekends or not.

So even though they will be constantly fighting about these more superficial things, deep inside they have a much stronger connection that holds them together.

Often however, it’s the opposite that happens. Two people meet and they instantly connect on superficial things. They like to go to the same places, do the same things, etc. And so they think that they could have a good relationship. But then, they eventually realize that deep inside they’re incompatible. When this is the case, no matter what they do, the relationship is going to fail, because no matter how much they connect on trivial things, their personalities don’t.

This is probably one of the main reasons why so many divorces happen today. Most people live very superficial lives, so they’re unable to notice when they connect to people in a deeper level and when they don’t. By the time they realize that they don’t connect they’re already married, and then the only thing left to do is to try and hold on to a relationship that’s doomed to fail or get a divorce and look for someone else.

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There are different levels of compatibility.
My wife is from New York City, a “city girl” in the truest form of the word. I am a country boy. Our interests differ in many ways.
Compromise is the key to our success. I have done things with her that I really did not care for and big cities still intimidate me. She has done things with me that she did not particularly care for either, camping for 2 weeks on the Appalachian trail living off the land was a true challenge for her.

We have grown to respect the interests and passions of the other and each have our “alone” time to do the things we want. Trying new things is sometimes a challenge, but we find out that it really ain’t so bad if we give it a chance.

Love is what kept us together for the past 25 years. Understanding each other is a unique individual has made it an adventure.

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Can you give examples of what you mean by “incompatible”?

It helps to try to understand what it is they love about each other, too. But, in general, the answer to your question is that they list and prioritize their incompatabilites, so they have little pieces on which to work instead of being overwhelmed by a vague mass. And then — COMPROMISE. Love makes one want to do this.

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When you find a ‘best answer’ re-post it on here for many people to read – I’ll copy and paste it to my father..mother …sister ….. ex-partner ….. ‘ best friend …. hell even me and my dog don’t always see eye to eye ..but I love the lil’ pooch.

I once asked a coupled who had been married 60 years (happily!) what their secret was – they both said two words to me:

TOLERANCE SENSE OF HUMOUR

does that help somewhat? :@)

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It can only work if the two people have open minds, and try new things. And try out the other persons interests..and so on..

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We put all our faith in the Lord and just keep working on our relationship together. After all, He brought us together. Love will always win over anything. That’s why we have faith. And when you keep your faith, you keep your love.

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